Overcome Sexual Performance Anxiety with Hypnosis

Does performance anxiety leave your sexual life a lot to be desired?

Sexual Anxiety Disorder is a common problem in which anxiety about engaging in sexual activity becomes an overriding block to the spontaneous flow of sexual feelings and thoughts. The fear of sexual performance, or more accurately the fear of not performing sexually, can affect sexuality in a variety of ways.

Sexual performance anxiety can result in avoidance of sexual encounters, lowered self-esteem, relationship discord and sexual dysfunction. Typically, an awareness of sexual anxiety disorder produces so much preoccupation with the anxiety itself that the person becomes less fully involved in the sexual interaction, bringing about the very failure that is feared. In one common scenario, as the anxious partner worries about how to be sexually responsive and spontaneous; he or she focuses on each detail of the lovemaking. One partner may focus on how rapidly the other partner is breathing, whether a shift in position is required, or how much lubrication or erection is present. The sexual interaction is dissected so deliberately that enjoyment is virtually impossible. Sexual encounters that proceed in this fashion have a high probability of being unfulfilling for one or both partners.

Anticipation

Anticipation of the next sexual encounter arouses the same anxiety coupled with the memory of the previous failure and often leads to avoidance of sexual activity altogether, or at least to minimizing the amount of sexual interaction that occurs. This may result in one member of a couple mistakenly interpreting the situation as a form of rejection. The underlying avoidance, however, is usually not to reject one's partner, but to save face in a way that helps the person feel more in control and less guilty about being inadequate.

Fears of sexual performance are likely to put a damper on sexual arousal. Eventually the fears may become so pervasive that they will become a self-fulfilling prophecy and many will experience an actual inability to get or keep an erection. Over the long run, performance fears may lead to an avoidance of sex, loss of self-esteem.

Fears of Sexual Performance

Fears of sexual performance are not limited to men or to worries about physical responsiveness such as the speed with which vaginal lubrication or an erection is attained, or the length of time that it is maintained. Fears can also reflect anxiety about one's sexual response on a broader level, such as how much passion, tenderness, intimacy and sensitivity a person feels toward his or her partner. In these cases, a person having no apparent problems in the physical side of sexual responsiveness may be distressed by an internal perception of inadequate or inappropriate sexual performance.

Causes

Physical causes

Various physical factors and medical conditions can cause problems with sexual function and they include:

• Diabetes
• Heart and vascular disease
• Neurological disorders
• Hormonal imbalances
• Kidney or liver failure
• Aging
• Alcoholism
• Drug abuse
• Obesity

In addition, the side effects of certain medications such as antidepressants can reduce sex drive and desire and result in a low libido.

Psychological causes

• Work-related stress and anxiety
• Marital or relationship problems
• Financial problems as a result of  unemployment or retrenchment
• Depression
• Feelings of guilt
• Concerns about sexual performance
• Effects of a past sexual trauma

Solution

So how do you stop automatic mental mechanisms from their appointed rounds? The problem here with performance anxiety in general and sexual performance anxiety in specific is that we're speaking of better controls over mental mechanisms that work appropriately for us most of the time. Sometimes it's hard to shut them off even when engaging in the most positive, logical thinking. It's sometimes tough to moderate them because we're dealing with automatic mechanisms that are usually not under one's conscious control. The issue is convincing yourself deep down that it's okay not to be actively concerned. Sometimes this is easy and sometimes hard.

Hypnosis is often utilized   when logic and reassurance aren't sufficient to get those inner thought processes convinced because hypnosis is designed to speak to those inner, more primitive areas of thinking.  Hypnosis will reduce nagging, self-conscious thoughts during making love, to foster a more relaxed and confident sense of self and to optimize self-esteem, happiness and hopefulness -- if simple logic isn't sufficient to calm down those concerns. Hypnosis is a very effective way to address issues without becoming dependent on something like a medication. It works by communicating directly to otherwise "unconscious" parts of the mind where anxieties and fears reside.

With our hypnotist, Danny Jackson, Cht and using permissive, indirect, Ericksonian hypnotic methods which are focused on positive, healthy, cognitive-behavioral changes, ending this revolving door of frustration will be easier than you think.  Call us today and talk to someone about the treatment, or just fill out the online consultation form for a free, PRIVATE, over the phone, evaluation with Danny now.